Freezing an opportunity

At first glance the decision by Apple and Facebook to offer women egg-freezing as a perk, may seem enlightened. “How modern and very hip,” you can almost hear some people saying. But let’s see how modern it really is. What they’re offering women is the chance to delay pregnancy so that they can reach their career goals while still having the option to procreate later on. There seems to be a...
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The myths of “world class” adoption

I am wondering whether somebody in government decided it was time to write a good news piece about adoption. They knew it would be a struggle. They assigned the research to some well-heeled Oxbridge graduates who were told to find ‘good news’. And this is the result. Apparently we have an adoption system in the UK that is ‘world class’. Well who knew? Honestly I despair when I read...
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When did mum become a dirty word?

A day doesn’t go by when i don’t read a blog, a Facebook post, a tweet by mums claiming that their job is the hardest, most unrewarding in the world. I know they are trying to be funny. But it’s just getting boring. And offensive. It’s another twist on the “God it’s hard being a woman” industry, the one which spawned the similarly misguided “All men are useless” narrative. Cliche? You bet. Yes...
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Adoption reopens that old debate of race and religion, throwing in same sex adoption too in Harrow

I was contacted by LBC radio to comment on this story As ever the topic of interracial adoption is a complex one, one that makes the headlines in the New York Times on the same day – link here. I think the title of the NY Time summarises the whole thing correctly. Yes race (and indeed religion) do matter. They are part of a child’s identity, and it will stay way into adulthood. In an ideal...
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Adoption Weak

To read some of the statistics bandied about during this Adoption week, you’d think things were really looking up. According the British Association of Adoption and Fostering almost 4,000 children were adopted between April last year and March – the highest number since records began in the early 90s. If only things were that rosy. 68,110 children were in the care of local authorities on...
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A neglect epidemic

This is a true story. It’s a story of how everything is connected and why we need to think about the way we look after our kids. You want to know how adults screw up then read this. A couple of months ago, late in the evening I was watching TV. Our new house overlooks the park. Like a lot of houses in London it’s the ‘good’ real estate opposite the council flats. I had...
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